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'''"Nice Guy Syndrome"''' is often used to describe a supposed phenomenon whereby women are not [[sexual attraction | attracted]] to nice, well-behaved men, but instead to [[abuse | abusive]] men normally cast as "jerks" or "assholes". It is a commonly starring cliché in various [[sitcom]]s. Often, the moral of their stories is that in the end the nice guys win out.

The Nice Guy Syndrome is an issue commonly brought up on the [[Internet]] as a form of [[Internet troll | trolling]] (especially by members of the "fast seduction" newsgroups and other similar organizations), but is also often subjected to serious discussion. While some dispute the classification of the phenomenon as a "syndrome", proponents claim that the female [[attraction pathology | attraction pathologies]] documented by the claims have been experientially verified.

It is related to the concept of the [[friend zone]]. "Nice Guys" are said to quickly enter a female's friend zone. Both concepts are said to be female [[atraction pathologies]], that is subconscious traits of the female mind which actually hurt them long term.

==Stereotypical "nice guy"==

The "nice guy" label typically connotes a pleasant male, lacking [[romantic love | romantic]] success, and usually romantic confidence as well. When men describe themselves as "nice guys", they usually believe themselves to be intelligent and polite, with average-to-above-average looks, average social skills, and average to above-average financial means. Furthermore, such men are often frustrated, if not indignant, about their lacking romantic su(contracted; show full)
* An explanation related to the former is that men enter college with an expectation that, there, they will find women more intelligent and similar to them than in high school (thus, they assume, devoid of attraction pathologies) and that they will be able to reinvent themselves in relation to the opposite gender. When these expectations are frustrated, men become resentful.
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*"Nice guy syndrome" is inherintly a syndrome in [[dating]] and [[casual sex]] encounters, and these primarily occour in the college years. During later years where theoretically most people are married and have a steady sexual partner, the phenonenon of "alpha male" and "nice guys" has little impact.

==Organizations to end Nice Guy Syndrome==

That Nice Guy syndrome is the root of dating failure is the premise for almost all "seduction tips" articles, seminars, and websites. As such much of what has been written and the research into this area has been influenced by the large amount of literature produced by this genre of class or seminar. A typical lesson from one of these organizations involves rules of what to say and what not to say, how to act and how not to act, in order to act the role of the alpha male. In essence, almost all of these classes instruct one to either temporarily or permanently transform ones personality away from being a "nice guy". Some "nice guys" find this morally unnaceptable. 
 
==See also==

* [[love-shyness]]
* http://www.sosuave.com/niceguys/