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<[[Yoga]] [[File:Pashupatahasta.JPG|thumb|500px|Blessing of the Yoga God Shiva]]

'''In a playful way, we learn the main principles of Yoga. Basically, the Yoga oracle is a game which helps us toward positive principles of life and strategies of wisdom.'''

(contracted; show full)is: Sex with passion is bad, because every passion is a serious threat to ataraxia (inner peace). In case of conflict, inner peace is preferable to sex. Passion often leads to trouble. Sex without passion is fine, because the resulting sensation is certainly pleasant. But we should not become addictive. All in all, love, passion, sex and marriage is a field full of pitfalls. At the best - but not mandatory - it is to stay away. " I guess that Rhetorix had pretty had bad experiences with relationships.
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How can one from the perspective of yoga  lead a happy relationship? In every relationship both partners should be very sensitive to their special way to find a happy relationship. The most important rules are: 1. A good relationship takes work. It is a false belief that one can let go completely at home. It takes some effort to make a relationship succeed. 2. Live yourself and your needs so that you feel good in yourself. Do not work too much. 3. Avoid too much criticism. Make criticism factual, sensitive and at the right moment. The basic rule for a relationship is to find at least 2 or 3 opportunities for praise for every 1 critical comment. John Gottman's research concludes there should be only 1 critical comment for every 5 other comments. 4. Avoid cutting off your partner too often when he expresses his wishes. Say yes as often as is possible. 5. Solve conflicts constructively. Clarify the precise factual situation. Think about different solutions. Finde the good common ground. 6. Regularly spend time doing activities that give you and your partner pleasure. For example, sex, dining, travel, excursions and a common hobby. 7. Gladden your partner regularly with a little attention. For example, flowers, small gifts, hugs and affection. Tell him that you love him. Take him in your arms. Rejoice with positive words and gestures. 8. Avoid things that your partner does not like. Work on your own negative characteristics. 9. Fortify yourself adequately against negative behavior from your partner (for example tantrums, violations of positive life principles). Do not reward negative behavior. Stay in an neutral frame of mind or say "No". 10. Be a good team. A good relationship is based on teamwork. A good team has a common goal. It knows its way to success. 11. Be gentle with each other. Stay out of the way, if you are aggressive. Be calm and peaceful before you communicate with your partner. Be more gentle than aggressive. Love grows on the basis of non-violence, kindness, wisdom and gentleness. 12. Compliment each other. Men love admiration. Women love gestures of affection. 13. Be honest with each other. Live in truth. Truth is the basis of every good relationship. 14. Anchor your relationship with a positive principle. Find a suitable name for this higher principle. Call it happiness, love, truth, spirituality, enlightenment or living in God. Connect yourselves regularly in all beautiful and in all difficult situations with your higher principle. Live in the center of your relationship from your higher principle. 15. Forgive one another your faults. Love means being able to forgive. Love means being able to apologize. 16. Have patience. Love means having patience. 17. Do not demand too much from your partner or from life. "Anyone who cannot limit his wishes becomes permanently unhappy. Who does not know his point of satisfaction will never be satisfied" (Epicurus). 18. Take your partner as he is. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. No man is perfect. Love means to love your partner with his weaknesses. Accept the weaknesses in yourself, then you can accept the weaknesses in your fellow man. 19. The main happiness of a person comes from himself. Important for a lasting happiness are daily spiritual exercises such as yoga, walking, reading, reflection (introspection), positive thinking (cognitive work) and meditation. 
20. They who wish the happiness of all beings grow in their own happiness. This is the highest spiritual wisdom.