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{{redirect|Flirt}}[[चित्र:Das werdenSie ja nachher schon sehen.jpg|right|thumb|''"Would you take offense if I had the gall to plant a kiss on this beautiful shoulder?"''<br />''"You'll figure that out soon enough after the deed."'']]
'''Flirting''' is a common form of [[social interaction]] whereby one person obliquely indicates a [[romantic love|romantic]] or  [[human sexuality|sexual]] interest towards another. It can consist of [[conversation]], [[body language]], or brief physical contact. It may be one-sided or reciprocated (encouraged) with intentions of getting to know that person on a higher level. 

Flirting may involve speaking and acting in a way that suggests greater [[intimacy]] than is generally considered appropriate to the [[personal relationship|relationship]] (or to the amount of time the two people have known each other), without actually saying or doing anything that breaches any serious [[social norm]]s. This may be accomplished by communicating a sense of playfulness or irony. [[Double entendre]]s, with one meaning more formally appropriate and another more suggestive, may be used.

While some of the subconscious signs are universal across cultures, flirting etiquette varies significantly across cultures which can lead to misunderstandings. There are differences in how closely people should stand ([[proxemics]]), how long to hold eye contact, and so forth.<ref>[http://www.spiegel.de/international/0,1518,419712,00.html "Spiegel Online: Scoring a German: Flirting with Fräuleins, Hunting for Herren"]—Jun 05 2006</ref>

== उद्देश ==
[[चित्र:Edouard Manet 031.jpg|thumb|left|[[Edouard Manet]]]]
People flirt for a number of reasons. It is often used as a means of indicating interest and gauging the other person's interest in a [[personal relationship|relationship]]. Alternatively, it may simply be a prelude to [[casual sex]].

In other situations, it may be done simply for amusement, with no intention of developing any further relationship. This type of flirting sometimes faces disapproval from others, either because it can be misinterpreted as more serious, or it may be viewed as "[[Cheating#Personal relationships|cheating]]" if the person is already in a romantic relationship with someone else.

== Origin and history उत्पत्ती आणि इतिहास ==
The origin of the word ''flirt'' is obscure. The [[ऑक्सफर्ड इंग्लिश डिक्शनरी]] (first edition) associates it with such onomatopoeic words as ''flit'' and ''flick'', emphasizing a lack of seriousness; on the other hand, it has been attributed to the old French ''conter fleurette'', which means "to (try to) [[seduction|seduce]]" by the dropping of flower petals, that is, "to speak sweet nothings". While old-fashioned, this expression is still used in French, often mockingly, but the English [[gallicism]] ''to flirt'' has made its way and has now become an [[anglicism]].

During World War II, anthropologist [[Margaret Mead]] was working in Britain for the British [[Ministry of Information (United Kingdom)|Ministry of Information]] and later for the U.S. [[United States Office of War Information|Office of War Information]],<ref name="uk">{{स्रोत पुस्तक
  | आडनाव = Mead
  | पहिलेनाव = Margaret
  | सहलेखक = William O. Beeman (ed.)
  | शीर्षक = Studying Contemporary Western Society: Method and Theory
  | प्रकाशक = Berghahn Books
  | दिनांक = 2004
  | स्थान = New York
  | पृष्ठे = 145, 149 
  | आयएसबीएन = 1-57181-816-2}}</ref><ref>
Mead's article, ''A Case History in Cross-National Communications'', was originally published in {{स्रोत पुस्तक
  | आडनाव = Bryson
  | पहिलेनाव = Lyman
  | शीर्षक = The Communication of Ideas
  | प्रकाशक = Institute for Religious and Social Studies, dist. by Harper and Brothers
  | दिनांक = 1948
  | स्थान = New York
  | आयडी = OCLC 1488507 }}</ref> delivering speeches and writing articles to help the American soldiers better understand the British civilians,<ref>
e.g. {{स्रोत पुस्तक
  | आडनाव = Mead
  | पहिलेनाव = Margaret
  | शीर्षक = The American troops and the British community
  | प्रकाशक = Hutchinson
  | दिनांक = 1944
  | स्थान = London
  | आयडी = OCLC 43965908 }}</ref> and vice versa.<ref>
e.g. {{cite journal
  | last = Mead
  | first = Margaret
  | title = What Is a Date?
  | journal = [[Transatlantic (disambiguation)|Transatlantic]]
  | volume = 10
  | issue = June 1944
  | id = OCLC 9091671
}}</ref>
She observed in the flirtations between the American soldiers and British women a pattern of misunderstandings regarding who is supposed to take which initiative.  She wrote of the Americans, "The boy learns to make advances and rely upon the girl to repulse them whenever they are inappropriate to the state of feeling between the pair," as contrasted to the British, where "the girl is reared to depend upon a slight barrier of chilliness... which the boys learn to respect, and for the rest to rely upon the men to approach or advance, as warranted by the situation."  This resulted, for example, in British women interpreting an American soldier's gregariousness as something more intimate or serious than he had intended.<ref name="uk" />

Communications theorist [[Paul Watzlawick]] used this situation, where "both American soldiers and British girls accused one another of being sexually brash", as an example of differences in "punctuation" in interpersonal communications.  He wrote that courtship in both cultures used approximately 30 steps from "first eye contact to the ultimate consummation", but that the sequence of the steps was different.  For example, kissing might be an early step in the American pattern but a relatively intimate act in the English pattern.<ref>
{{स्रोत पुस्तक
  | आडनाव = Watzlawick
  | पहिलेनाव = Paul
  | शीर्षक = How Real Is Real?
  | प्रकाशक = Souvenir Press
  | दिनांक = 1983
  | स्थान = London
  | पृष्ठे = 63–64
  | आयएसबीएन = 028562573X
}}</ref>

Japanese courtesans had another form of flirting, emphasizing non-verbal relationships by hiding the lips and showing the eyes, as depicted in much [[Shunga|Shunga art]], the most popular print media at the time, until the late 1800s.

== पद्धती ==
[[चित्र:Jealousy and Flirtation.jpg|thumb|A study in body language]]
Flirting may consist of stylized gestures, language, [[body language]], [[posture]]s, and [[physiology|physiologic signs]] which act as cues to another person. Among these, at least in [[western culture|Western society]], are:

विशीष्ट संकेत हावभाव भाषा  

* [[Eye contact]], batting eyelashes, [[staring]], [[wink]]ing, etc. नेत्र
* "[[Proteans (body language)|Protean]]" signals, such as touching one's hair
* [[Giggling]], or laughing encouragingly at any slight hint of intimacy in the other's behavior
* Casual touches; such as a woman gently touching a man's arm during conversation
* [[Smile|Smiling]] suggestively
* Sending notes, [[poetry|poems]], or small gifts
* [[Flattery]]
* [[Online chat]] is a common modern tactic, as well as other one-on-one and direct messaging services
* [[Footsie]], the "feet under the table" practice
* [[Teasing]]
* Staging of "chance" encounters
* Coyness, affectedly shy or modest, marked by cute, coquettish, or artful playfulness eg [[pickup lines]].
The effectiveness of these several interactions has been subjected to detailed analysis by [[behavioral psychologist]]s, and advice on their use is available from [[dating coach]]es.

== हेसुद्धा पाहा ==
* [[प्रणय]]
* [[Anti-Flirt Club]]

==संदर्भ== 	 
{{reflist}}

== बाह्य दुवे ==
{{wikisourcepar|The_Royal_Path_of_Life/Flirting|A nineteenth century perspective on flirting}}
{{Commonscat|Flirting}}
* [http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html SIRC Guide to Flirting]
* [http://psycnet.apa.org/?fa=main.doiLanding&uid=1987-04014-001 Nonverbal Courtship Patterns In Women: Context and Consequences]
* [http://cms.psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-19990101-000033.html Psychology Today - Flirting Fascination] –Reviews several studies on flirting⏎
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